The “Sandwich Generation”

Then He said to the disciple, “Behold your mother!” And from that hour that disciple took her to his own home. John 19:27

Over the course of a lifetime, most people will come face to face with caregiving, either as providers or recipients. In some cases, the need for assistance comes about suddenly. With stroke, for instance, a person might go from being entirely self-sufficient to being totally dependent in a short span of time, even hours. But in other situations, particularly with dementia, the shift is gradual where the amount of help a person requires progresses slowly over time.

Nowadays, it’s not uncommon for a person to find themselves in the role of caregiver for two different age groups. Does that describe you? Are you one of the millions of people taking care of another adult? But do you also have kids who are not yet independent? Right now about 1 out of 8 Americans is raising children and caring for an elderly person, usually their parent. If that describes you, then consider yourself sandwiched.

Are you part of the “Sandwich Generation?”

Are you part of the “Sandwich Generation?”

“The Sandwich Generation” is not determined by birth year. You belong when you take care of children and adults at the same time. There’s also the “Club Sandwich.” These are people who are helping three generations: aging parents, adult children and grandchildren.

We’re living longer than ever before. But illness, disability and dementia are common with age. Consequently, the added years don’t always mean independent living. Many seniors need assistance; some require 24-hour care. So who bears the burden? Usually it’s family, most often their children.

And though it’s a labor of love, the stress can be overwhelming, especially for those who are “sandwiched.” It helps to keep these tips in mind:

  • Don’t neglect your own health. Just as you take care of others, make sure you take care of yourself.
  • Tap into available resource. Take advantage of benefits from Medicare, Medicaid or other insurance plans. Call your local Department of Aging for advice. Join a community support group, or form one of your own.
  • Insist that other family members pitch in. Responsibilities ought to be shared.

Caregiving is draining—emotionally, mentally and physically. If you are in that role, be encouraged! In the verse from John 19, notice Jesus looked upon John, “the disciple whom He loved,” the one who would look after Mary. What a responsibility! To be the primary caregiver for the woman who gave birth to the Messiah! The lesson for caregivers is this: Jesus gave this duty to His friend. Yes, He tenderly eyed Mary, but He also looked down on John, a man He loved dearly. If you are a caregiver, rest in the knowledge that Jesus is your friend. He sees you, and He cares.



  • U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention –

  • AARP Caregiving Resource Center –

  • The Caregiver Action Network –

  • Family Caregiver Alliance –


Dr. Kara Davis
Written by Dr. Kara Davis

Kara Davis, M.D. received her undergraduate education at the University of Illinois in Urbana, Illinois. She attended medical school and completed her residency training in internal medicine at the University of Illinois in Chicago. She remained at the University of Illinois serving as an Assistant Professor of Clinical Medicine for ten years. She currently practices in the Chicagoland area. She is certified by the American Board of Internal Medicine.

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